Ephesians 4:15
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.
Alright fellow Christians, just because you stand on a truth doesn’t give you the right to say it any way you want. The way we talk about things certainly has a lot of people turned off. Why would anyone want to join a church that spoke so harshly and venomously as some of us Christians do. Since I talked about some lies I have believed, I want to talk about truth a little.
There are two places in today’s political climate that I just see us Christians failing to speak the truth in love. Abortion and Gay marriage are all over the headlines. I also see a church who holds signs that say God hates you and little old ladies with pictures of aborted babies outside abortion clinics and planned parenthood. I don’t know about you but that isn’t speaking the truth with love. While yes if you read the Bible both are sins, but so is lying, cheating, stealing and adultery. God also isn’t a fan of divorce. So why are we so cruel when it comes to these things.
Abortion
Yes abortion is murder. Last time I checked though we should not be the judge of others. While I am saddened by the choice people make to kill their own children, The fact is that in judging these women we are saying that all we care about is the baby and no one cares about your soul. They do need to hear that it is wrong but is shouting murderer at them going to help them find Jesus? Is telling them they are going to hell going to make them receptive to God’s word?
Matthew 7:1-5
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Let us not forget as Christians that “God so loved the WORLD.” Good thing that he said WORLD and not spotless and sinless or we would all be spending a long time in hell! I have always found the door into someones heart isn’t through judgement and condemnation but love. So have some compassion, Why not talk to the women and invite them to lunch. Hear their problems and reasons. Help them solve the real problems that have gotten them where they are. Maybe they just need support. Maybe they are homeless, give them a home! My point is that love will go a long way in saving the mother and the baby.
Another small point I would like to point out that is lacking in our fight again infanticide, is that we talk women out of an abortion and then we leave them hanging. We don’t do anything to save the souls of the baby and mother. What good was saving a babies life if we don’t care to save their soul. Just saying!
Gay Marriage
This one is a much more touchy subject to me. I have met some wonderful people who are gay. I would never treat them any different than anyone else. I have had co-workers that were gay. The fact is that we all deal with sin in our life. For me the sins are relational with my husband and living in that relationship in a way that pleases God. I want to be in control and at times try to usurp my wonderful man.
Do I think as a church we should be condoning and permitting marriage that is outside of what God had planned take place in our walls? No. At the same time, I don’t think we should be making a whole group of people be treated as they are second class citizens. The fact is that our nation was founded on freedom principles. In our country, people have the right to divorce easily, have sex outside of marriage and look at porn. These are all different types of sexual sin and the Bible speaks firmly on these. So why is homosexual behavior treated as a worse sin.
My point is that the way we are treating this group of sinners is so much worse than people who look at porn or have extramarital affairs. I don’t completely understand the hate speech and venom that comes out of Christians mouths when it comes to homosexuals. The fact is that me telling them they are going to hell isn’t going to change anything but make Christ look like he isn’t the God who loved the WORLD. I can say that I don’t agree with the behavior and leave it at that. It is much more loving than taking the Bible and hitting someone with it. The only thing we can do is love on them and be honest and kind when asked about our beliefs in this.
I would just like to remind all the Christians out there that the Bible tells us to speak the truth with love. We need to remember that how we deliver the message as important as the message. We just need to remember that we are trying to be Christ like. So as corny as this may sound think about what Jesus might say and how he might say it!