The other day I had written a post about perspective and homeschooling, something went wonky with my router and the post didn’t save and I hadn’t copied it to a word doc so it got lost. Which kind of works for me. As I have been thinking more about the post and have really just had lots of little pieces to the perspective puzzle coming my way.
Philippians 4:8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
It seems as though I was casting stones in a glass house with the vanishing post. Sometimes God just loves you enough to keep a little bit of mud out of your face. I had talked about Abby’s perspective of school and homeschooling. He immense desire to spend hours playing video games. I had talked about having to correct her way of thinking. HA…while her way of thinking may indeed need some adjusting, I am finding mine needs a serious realignment as well.
What I was realizing was that Abby was a product of the what I had allowed in the past. Although some of our issues have to do with being unmedicated with ADHD. I was realizing that I needed to get more in line with the word of God and what I am modeling. I needed to change how I saw her as well. I expect her not to complete a task the first one hundred times she is asked. I expect her to misbehave. I have allowed these thoughts to rule my thoughts about her.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love her. She is smart, funny, curious and goodhearted. I, however, have let my negative thoughts roll on to my children as well as myself. I focus so much with what is wrong with me that I started to look at what was wrong with them. I am sure we all have those days. Mine just seemed to be coming more and more often.
Proverbs 22:6
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
What have I been doing to train my children? I haven’t been the best example. I haven’t been intentional enough in my behaviors. I haven’t looked at myself enough in how I am interacting with them to make the difference I want in their lives. Am I showing them the woman I want them to be? Am I the one that is setting the example and the standard for them to follow. I am afraid I have not. I haven’t shown them the way of our Lord.
Abby hasn’t had the privilege to have a mom who has followed Christ her whole life. So she has been trained a lot in the ways of the world. She has had to deal with me working out what faith means and how to put it into action. She has seen a change in me, but she thinks of me as more strict and well lame. I don’t let her do things that I would have been okay with just a couple of years ago. I did not guard her near enough when she was younger. She has had to deal with all the growing pains that come with learning and understanding the word of God and it’s application to your life. Unfortunately, sometimes I have focused on the religion part more than the love part.
1 Timothy 4:12
Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.
I ran across this verse tonight when I was thinking about what to write and setting an example that I wanted for my children and people in general. I got two things from it. One that when you are a youth you will do many a stupid thing. Praise God for forgiveness. This means that since Abby is a youth we should probably focus on the right behaviors and how to get more of them and two we need to be a little more grace filled. I can’t go despising her for her youth. Which for the record, I understand that Timothy was young when he was a leader in the church and that the youth they were talking about was his. That he shouldn’t let the fact that he was a younger man be something that people held against him. I, however, think that God talks to us in ways with his word that gives us a truth even if it wasn’t the original meaning of the verse.
The second thing that I got out of the verse is that I need to step up and be a better example in my speech to my husband, my children, my family, my neighbors and well everyone I have spoken too while I am not at my best. I need to conduct myself more in love, faith, and purity. I need to guard what I allow in this house more. I need act more in love with my children. I need to show my children more self-control. I need to be stop acting in the ways of this world and put more focus on God the father. I need to trust in him more to change me. I need to have faith in him to make me a better person. I need to trust that he will make me the spouse that my husband needs, the mother than my children need, the daughter that my parents need and the child that God needs me to be.